My deed is to remind myself that if I have problem with how a woman or man acts, (’Get some balls!’), if I judge a man or women on their appearance (’Make an effort!’), if I speak to a woman for one reason and a man for another(’Excuse me can you give me some directions?’), if I question their attitude , their choices, their jobs, their relationships, their choice of alcoholic drink in relation to their gender, then it’s my problem-not theirs.

My deed is to be honest with myself when I have this problem.

My deed is to think, act and live what I believe. My deed is to practice the knowledge that gender is performed and my expectations constructed. My deed is deconstruct my understanding of men and women. My deed is to (live) according my values (and let) others (live) according to theirs.